Step Three and Four of Alcoholics Anonymous are solutions to feeling afraid
Most likely regardless of how long we have been sober we will wake up one day feeling afraid. We will wake up scared of one of the many things that threaten us. Things like sickness, loss, homelessness, Alzheimer’s, poverty, an inability to take care of ourselves, our children’s well-being and so on and so on. The horrible things that can happen and have happened to us are endless. What do we do on these fearful days? Do we wake up and distract ourselves by attacking those we love most? Do we try to control everything around us? And even if we could control everyone would that even work to protect us from our fears and problems? NO!
What then do we do? We revisit our Third Step and remember that our well-being is in the hands of our Higher Power. We remember that our Higher Power Loves us and has our back. We should not be ashamed that we fear we share our fear and then move on to the solutions. It is hard though because humans try so hard to hide their fears that it leaves us feeling alone and even more afraid thinking we are the only ones who feel that way.
We do not always know why things happen, we don’t always know why we are so afraid however be encouraged for we do have the solutions for that fear. We put on our shoes, we tie them up and we do our work. Put on your shoes now and feel the power that it gives you. Sounds silly huh? That’s what I thought also until I actually tried it. Spending the day barefoot, un-showered, and is the same clothing I slept in does not empower me whatsoever. It is a slothful behavior that I need to change straight-away.
In this human life of ours we do what we can for ourselves and at the end of the day we are reminded that we do have a purpose and that we are emotionally strong, if we weren’t we would not have survived thus far. We are here in the flesh to give Love and to be Loved. We are here to give and to receive to help and be helped. By us giving encouragement to others and sharing how we overcame a state of hopelessness in addiction we teach others that they also can overcome their fears, and their feelings of impending doom with the help of God.
Oftentimes we don’t know what we are feeling just that we are uneasy or are having anxiety. One sure way to get out anxiety is to walk outside and scream loudly “I am not going to take it anymore!” Again louder! After all at the heart of all anxiety is fear and we do not have to let it rule us anymore! We do have a choice!