False Pride is One of my Dominate Temptations of that I confess.
If Staying Sober is what you need to learn today…do not read this article. I have many many other articles on how to stay sober. I have been sober since 2006. That’s 14 years or so. Ten of which I have taken some kind of doctor prescribed non narcotic drug. Be clear I don’t take opiates, that would cause me dysfunctional addiction and horrible consequences.
They are merely Reprogrammed. They Grasp their emotionally erected walls hewn of Brick and Glass, Brick & Glass.
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What is the difference between reprogramming and healing? Healing from addiction involves both emotional recovery and the reprogramming of mental habits, thought processes and results in a new self image. If healed they are no longer defensive
Relapse Feels Horrible
Here is a great solution for the remorse. It’s one little assignment that is tried and true…if we can just pick up a pencil and paper to do it!!!
Relapse brings up a lot of guilt and shame which sucks, however it is the perfect time to get some serious baggage off of our heart. Building self-esteem happens when we take one right action at a time. First thing, write core feelings. Write the self-loathing and the feelings of utter worthlessness you feel. Example: I feel like a failure, I hate myself for the things I have done to me and others (children especially). Write the fears associated with thoughts like: I let down my fellows, what will they think of me now? I want people to like me but now they will know I am a failure. Write all the society fears associated with relapse. Write the shame of re-entering the rooms after a relapse and what that does to your reputation and how it makes you feel. GET TO THE CORE FEELINGS THAT MOST EVERY RELAPSER FEELS UNLESS THEY ARE A SOCIOPATH or can’t get honest.
I heard a women at a meeting tonight share this: “When I expressed fear my sponsor told me that God is either everything or He’s nothing.” The sponsor made a typical example of the extreme thinking, closed mindedness and lack of balance addicts often experience. Why do I disagree with the statement? Because: THERE IS A WHOLE LOTTA GOD WHO LIVES BETWEEN “ALL AND NOTHING”.
“Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path.” Chapter 5 How It Works from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. I remember hearing these words for the first time in an A.A. meeting and thinking to myself, “God I hope that’s true.” I wanted so badly to get and stay clean and sober. My life had been torturous. I had hit a bottom that was so emotionally painful and mentally taxing that I understand completely why people kill themselves. I also understand why the suicide statistics among sober addicts is very high as well. Since that first day I have been sober nearly ten years. I am at peace with myself more so now than in my entire life. I am so blessed. I believe that when we make and effort to do the right thing and we work the steps…that God is in our corner. Everything just clicked for me yet at times I forget how good God has been to me and I start whine go Him that I want more. Bottom line, God gives me what I need. Peace of mind is priceless in my book and between therapy and the 12 steps
There is such a thing as God rolling out the red carpet of sobriety. I also believe there is suchc a ,v
Sure you would think once someone can get and stay sober there problems are over they will automatically be “happy joyous and free” just like the A.A cliche’ says. Unfortunately depression, bi-polar disorder, high anxiety, mental illness, and obsessive compulsive disorder are all common among sober alcoholics.
How depressing you say…and it is BUT, the good news is we can adjust to a sober life and we can even overcome high anxiety. Plus there are medications that help the mental illness if we stay sober and take it regularly. Instead many addicts go through a phase of thinking they don’t need their bi-polar meds. And that the meds are having a negative effect on them.
The steps work to help every disorder I mentioned above not just to keeps us sober. If we can just take a step of faith and get a sponsor, go to 90 meetings in 90 days. Immerse ourselves in A.A. and connect with the people. Ask questions and share in meetings. Find some friendly members and tell them how you feel. When we are scared we should share that we are scared. It takes off the emotional load.
We need to have a therapist that will help us learn how to let our emotions flow. We need to make friends who have let down their walls and are not afraid to be honest about their feelings. We need to let ourselves cry after all we have been through hell in our addiction.
The Big Book reads that many of us suffer from gave emotional dis
Staying Sober, The Same Things I did to stay sober nine years ago I do to keep me sober today.
Is anyone having a hard time staying sober today, we in Alcoholics Anonymous ask?
THE SAME THINGS I DID TO STAY SOBER NINE YEARS AGO I DO TO KEEP ME SOBER TODAY. TEMPTATION STRIKES AT NINE YEARS SOBER! DOES THAT MEAN MY SOBRIETY IS NOT QUALITY SOBRIETY?
I used to love to drink the frothy brown head on the top of a cold Amber Bock or Dark Heineken beer. I preferred my beer nearly frozen. I would chug down the first one till I remember getting a warm fuzzy feeling in the pit of my stomach. Then I felt the alcohol coarse through my veins almost like a shot of heroin straight into my blood stream. I would sit around with my friends connecting on a level that made me feel brotherhood and a sense of belonging. I had found my place in life and it took alcohol to get me there.
So when I walked to my neighbor’s house yesterday to pick up my little dog I was a bit taken by the ice cold cooler full of Amber Bock and the fellowship that I found. At nine years sober I must admit my mind went to a place where I asked myself, “Can I safely drink? After all I am a different person now.” When they kindly offered me a beer I laughed and told them that I quit nine years prior and that drinking got me in trouble. They laughed and said, “We thought that was the whole reason TO drink….to get in trouble that is”. I kindly laughed-back enjoying the prospect of being enabled by alcohol to do the things that my pesky conscience wouldn’t allow. And is that the “why” behind the wealthy man’s reason to drink as well as the poor man’s? Who knows? All I could remember were the good times and that’s ok temporarily that is. I did have some good memories of drinking and met some wonderful people.
The counselors at Bridge house Rehab gave us a little sobriety tool called “play it through”. This tool, if you really do want to be free from the miseries drinking brings, works. It works for me and it works for those I got sober with back in 2006 who are still around.
My brain’s travelling neurons then took an abrupt turn into an exit ramp and caught my pain-staking-ly built sobriety bridge. By doing the “next right thing” and by God’s grace I have built a bridge over the carved out and well used roads in my brain labelled “This way to Hell”. After nine years of recovery my minds neurons have learned to travel on the well-lit highways or “neural-pathways” of sobriety. And what did I find on my well lit road leading me away from the Hell that I have had enough of? You guessed it, I found awareness. I recovered the memories of the hangovers, the regrets, the wrongs I committed, and my destructive actions. I found memories of throwing up, of waking up so thirsty from a black-out that was so deep it could only have been induced by poisoning my brain. I remembered crashing my vehicles, and the regret of sleeping with countless men just so I could feel I had some value. I remembered the jails. I remembered my moral compass and self-esteem being crushed even further into the dirt. I remembered doing the things that a hurt child of God does while just trying to make sense of a young life filled with betrayal, evil, hurt and pain. And so I knew then as I sat on my neighbor’s porch that drinking was not my choice, not today and hopefully never again.
SO IS MY SOBRIETY QUALITY? I DIDN’T DRINK, I USED THE TOOLS, I DIDN’T DISRESPECT OR JUDGE MY DRINKING NEIGHBORS, I AM NOT ASHAMED OF WHO I AM AND MY THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS. QUALITY SOBRIETY HAS MANY FACES INCLUDING A FACE OF PAIN. BUT THROUGH IT ALL IT HAS A FACE THAT HAS EYES TO SEE PAST THE EVIL INTO THE GOOD. YOU BE THE JUDGE.