SEVEN YEARS SOBER, ALCOHOL WAS BUT A SYMPTOM OF A DEEPER SICKNESS
I ran into a lady a Wal-Mart, she invited me to church. I gave her a brief summary of what God has done for me in the last nine years. I told her I have stayed sober nine years. She looked at me amazed and said, “Wow! That must be hard, it’s hard to stay sober.” I thought to myself about the last years in sobriety and how easy it has been to stay sober anymore. I thought to myself this life of mine is the closest this former drunk has ever been to a “normal life”. I told “June” (is her name), I said, “June it was hard, very, very hard to get sober and the first four years where absolutely filled with processing my core issues.
I worked very hard to clear up the wreckage of the past and root out the underlying causes of my addiction. Not to mention the twelve steps were and are my guide through my sober journey. In the twelve steps lies the magical jump-start that made all my healing and psychic change possible. That magic is my Higher Power. I relentlessly worked step eleven meditation daily for years. I connected with God, I met my Spirit Guides and I became strengthened to the point of a new self-confidence and awareness of who I really am. I let little Laura out of the closet and she isn’t so bad after all.
My underlying cause was “emotional disorder” Not to mention I was ate up with shame. Until I went to AA and had one full year of recovery based therapy I had no idea what to do with feelings. Feelings used to scare the shit out of me to put it bluntly.
Why does the addict work so hard to change the way he/she feels? How is it that the new re-habs are advertising that they have the “cure” for addiction when we are taught in the big book that we will always be alcoholics? Is it possible that Bill Wilson was wrong? We are taught to keep an open mind and to never limit God and His power. Maybe Bill Wilson just never did find the courage and where-with-all to return to his childhood traumas and scream and cry them out as that small child. Letting the hurts out rather than holding them in and allowing them to rule over out action and emotional responses is the sickness. Letting hurt out is the process that leads to our healing but not everyone can make themselves so vulnerable. Crying is a healthy emotion and should not be repressed.
If the underlying cause is healed by God and we are taught how to express our feelings in a healthy way, then it becomes very easy to stay sober. Is it a cure? Well that’s a matter of semantics.
NEVER-THE-LESS I AM SOBER BY THE GRACE OF GOD WHO PICKED ME UP OFF THE STREET WHERE I WAS DEAD TO THE LIGHT AND HE OPENED MY EYES AND HEALED