Can step Four cure my anxiety? Make a fear list. Can the Addict mind admit it is afraid?
|Some pretty and acceptable words for fear are….anxiety, depression, uncomfortable, nervous. Why are addicts so dang afraid? Perhaps because we were taught to suppress our fears rather than express and release them. Step four has a solution called the “fear list” that very few talk about in the rooms. Perhaps because of the ugly words for fear that we were raised on nobody wants to be associated with scared y-cat, pussy, chicken-shit, wimp, etc.Fear and shame are at the core of every addiction and until we admit we are afraid we won’t seek out the 12 step solutions. The right way to do a fourth step always has fear in the “effects my” category. IMO
Reference page 65 in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous for the Fourth step grid directions. Turn to page 68 for the “fear list” directions and how to have fears removed. Revisit Step Three to remind us that we are in the care of our Higher Power.
These solutions are part of working the 12 steps of AA. So often people speak in meetings and coin the phrase “live the steps”. These directions are a big part of just how to do that.