MOVE A MUSCLE CHANGE A THOUGHT!
AA SOBRIETY TOOLS
That means get up, put on my shoes (feel the power) and take a walk somewhere…anywhere.
Don’t confuse controlling behavior with setting boundaries. We can only ask people how to treat us we cannot make them treat us any way. People do what they want so if they don’t show us respect…we walk away.
Boundaries are what I do not what I ask you to do. I tell someone if I feel their actions toward me are disrespectful, that way they have a chance to change their behavior toward me. When they don’t I walk away. Staying and arguing is dysfunctional. Staying and being abused is dysfunctional. Staying and abusing is dysfunctional and non of these are true boundaries.